Satisfaction

So - here I am and I had so much to say, but as I sit here I just don't know where to start. Bear with me, I hope I can connect my thoughts.
Lately, I've been in a funk. I mean.... a FUNK. I think many have probably noticed, few have reached out. It seems to me like the edges of depression, and I have been trying to stay away from the black hole. And yet, I feel like I'm in the black hole. BUT this post isn't about depression - because I am not going there! I just am NOT. That is not what I want for my life and I will come back renewed.
There has been so many little things going on - from work changes, to finances, to parenthood struggles, to weight and health struggles and beyond and I have let the combination of everything really pull me down and I need to stop.

I'm trying to not only dig myself out of my black hole, but better myself as I go - in many ways. So, my starting point is personal development, because mentally and emotionally I just need it. Really we all do. I keep seeing the phrase that if I am not working on personal development and I am struggling elsewhere, it ALL comes back to that! And I think I keep seeing that, because I need to be reminded that life is more and that developing myself emotionally, mentally, and spiritually will uphold me much better. I listened to a podcast by Priscilla Shirer and in it she speaks heavily of satisfaction - of finding contentment in our circumstances.

 

 

Let me tell you how much that really hits home with me. No matter how many times I have proclaimed "comparison is the thief of joy", I have continued to compare. I'm not as skinny as her, I don't lost weight as easily. My finances suck, why can't I get those in order and improve or win the lottery or something! My child is a hot mess, I love her SO much I cannot even describe it but attitude is rough sometimes! My job, I worked hard to finish my Master's Degree and yet why can't I fall into a big promotion or great placement of use like so and so did? They didn't even have to try... Things like this, you see they are not helping me. I know I am not alone, I know many people go through very similar struggles. This podcast is the reason I am writing right now, because her words really rang true to me. There's a reason I am in this season RIGHT NOW. Why am I in such a hurry to always be somewhere besides where I am? She challenged me to resolve to live with a spirit of contentment. Here is her proposed resolution word for word: "I do solemnly resolve to embrace my current season of life and I will maximize my time in it. I will resist the urge to hurry through or circumvent any portion of my journey. I WILL live with a spirit of contentment." WOW.

You see - I am quite blessed. I have my family all here- so many of them that love and support me despite all of my downfalls. I have a beautiful healthy daughter who struggles with much the same negative self image and doubt that I do. I have an amazing husband that takes out the trash and mows the yard and helps out. And you the know the best part - he loves me and Madyson for who we are. Every day he loves us, even through the rough days.

One of the best things that you can do for your life is to seek contentment in your circumstances. Yes we should continually be trying to better ourselves and even seeking more. I am not taking away from that. I did work hard to get my degree and I will not back down from challenging my career  path and that outlook holds on my other issues (weight loss, parenting, finances, etc). BUT I also need to learn satisfaction in the here and now, just because I am striving for more does not mean I can't find happiness in my circumstances and live a satisfying fulfilled life through the whole path. I don't have to reach the top and battle all of our challenges to be happy. I can be happy through the storms - and so can you.

 

Today, I resolve to find contentment and satisfaction in my life while striving to better myself and my circumstances along the way.

 

 



 

 

Let's Talk Rubies

I had both the pleasure and the honor of participating in a very unique project. The Ruby Project. This project was all about stomping out insecurities and judgment, about encouraging women to understand that our looks don't make us who we are. We look in the mirror and we criticize ourselves, we look at other women and many times mentally judge there as well. We are our own worst critics and we need to stop tearing each other down.
It's about support - I was astounded at the number of kind comments and likes and reactions I got by sharing this project on Facebook. It's also interesting to see who didn't bother to react. People that are after you to participate in their journeys, but they don't so much as like such a spectacular mission that you took part in (see there I go judging).

In truth, what is perfection? Perfection is not a size 3 or 5'8". Perfection is what we as a society has tried to make it and we are very wrong. You see we were created in God's image, and we were ALL created with a purpose. Each and every one of us and we should never doubt or question that purpose.
Am I saying we should all just let ourselves go and flounder away? No, but we need to stop condemning ourselves for the size of pants we wear and the number on the scale. And we need to uplift each other always.
This project was started by one person who saw a Facebook post and decided she needed to take a stand as well. She took off running and in the end we were all blessed by the project. And I am hoping along the way many others are blessed by it too. To quote Jessica Psalms 31:10 tells us that "her worth is far more precious than rubies" - hence The Ruby Project.

We started by holding signs of either things people had said to us or things we believed about ourselves that are demeaning or negative in some way. My picture below.

We then were pictured holding a sign with either a corresponding positive quote or verse that lifted us up from that dark place of negativity.

 

 

Even looking at my pictures here, I find myself judging myself!! I cannot believe that despite the purpose of this project I look at this picture and think oh my gosh... I just have gotten so big. Or wow, look how fat my knees are in those pants. You see what we are doing to ourselves? This world has completely torn us apart. My self confidence has always been LOW. ALWAYS. Despite what you might think of me, I am not outgoing, I am shy, I am nervous, and I am always self conscious.

I am working on me - in many ways, but in doing so I need to work on not tearing me down. ME as I am now is just as perfect as me 80 pounds lighter. Tearing myself down will not help, in fact it's a deep hole to dig out of. The purpose of this project is to bring an end to attitudes such as mine and bring out the positivity, uplifting, and encouragement.

What can YOU do to help?

The link to the full Ruby Project here: https://m.facebook.com/jessicajoybantaphotography/albums/769388886531933/